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Home LivingWellnessAdult5 things I wish I’d known before I bought a FleshlightDon’t pick up a boy’s toy without hearing the ups and downs of owning a male strokerWhen you purchase through links on our site, we may earn an affiliate commission.Here’s how it works.
Don’t pick up a boy’s toy without hearing the ups and downs of owning a male stroker
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(Image credit: Lovehoney)
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Fleshlights have now been around long enough – and the stigma attached to them has dissipated to such an extent – that there’s really no reason for anyone with a penis not to have at least one stroking toy on hand somewhere. But if you’re a first timer interested in picking up one of thebest Fleshlights, it’s important to know exactly what you’re getting yourself into: it’s not all fun and games. Check out our guides onhow to use a Fleshlightandhow to clean a Fleshlightbefore considering the following facts…
1. Not all Fleshlights are created equal
Although the concept doesn’t really change from toy to toy – you make it slippery then insert your penis, no rocket science required – the toys themselves tend to vary a lot. Each company uses a slightly different formulation for its skin-like material, for example, Kiiroo’s sleeves feel different from Fleshlight’s, which themselves vary from Arcwave’s and Tenga’s and so on. There’s even variation within individual brands. Take Fleshlight’s lineup: the clear version of its SuperSkin is a little sticker and, when lubed, more slippery than its flesh-coloured version.
There don’t tend to be too many places (or friends) that’ll let you try these things out before you buy, so do your research. Manufacturers don’t just vary their materials. They go properly HAM with textures and shapes sometimes, and certain canal designs really don’t work for me.
Fleshlight’s sleeves, to offer one example, have an occasional tendency towards including little caverns mid-way through. Fun! Except they’re not, because they tend to create a barrier at their other end which your manhood smashes up against. A distraction at best, deeply uncomfortable at worst. There’s often no need for fancy design, anyway. TheArcwave Voyis one of my favourite toys of all time (and holds a spot in ourbest sex toys for menguide), and it completely forgoes anything realistic in favour of looking like a pile of old tyres.
(Image credit: Arcwave)
(Image credit: Arcwave)
2. You may be more sensitive than you think
Guys: if you haven’t been fumbling with yourself with great regularity since the day you realised it was a thing you could do, you’re an outlier. So you’re probably confident that you know exactly how sensitive your trouser region is and that you’re ready for anything, right? Oh boy.
These things are far more effective than you might think, so dipping one’s toe in on the more basic end – one of Fleshlight’s stamina trainers, for example, or a basic Kiiroo Feel – might be the best idea. Jumping in head first with something wacky like one of Tenga’s ultra-geometric toys is genuinely not a good idea, no matter how much lube you use. These things can go beyond the point of pleasure into the region of pain. No thanks.
3. Use lots of lube… No, more than that
If you’re spending some time with your right hand, you know your limits precisely, and can vary your grip to ensure you don’t get uncomfortable. There’s every chance you’ve never used any kind of lubrication if you’re going toy-free.
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Don’t even think about doing that with a toy. You need a water-based lube – check out our guide to thebest lubeif you want something special – and while a little dab will work, don’t be tempted to skimp. Although some Fleshlights will give you the option to adjust the suction or to squeeze them tighter to tweak the pressure, using them without enough lube can get very rough, particularly as it absorbs into your skin and gets sticky.
(Image credit: Fleshlight)
(Image credit: Fleshlight)
4. They can be bloody big
All credit to toy manufacturers for providing options that’ll fit the vast majority of the penis-having population, but if you’re not amongst the most endowed you won’t be making use of a vast portion of many sleeves.
Full-sized Fleshlight-style toys – theFleshlight Ice Lady, for example – are absolutely enormous. Wastefully so, given that this is something you’ll want to at least attempt to squirrel away. Even the shrunk-down mid-sized models, like theFleshlight Flight Pilot, are pretty darn chunky.
Really my first purchase would have been better if it were one of the more compact, open-ended examples, far easier to tuck away and, frankly, just as exciting as a full-size toy. For more reasons than just the size…
5. They are an absolute pain to clean
Ladies, lucky for them, get to use convex toys which can be wiped, rinsed, and perhaps even shoved in the dishwasher. Guys don’t quite get the same luxury. Cleaning a Fleshlight-type toy can be incredibly difficult, particularly given all the nooks and crannies, and the fact that (trust me on this one) attempting to invert the sleeves on certain toys is a good way to tear their material up and ruin your investment.
What is worse is that you need to air dry them, which isn’t super-convenient in a family home containing children prone to asking questions. Pick up a smaller toy likeFleshlight’s Quickshot Vantageand you’ll find the whole job of cleaning and drying much easier.
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